There's Nothing Wrong With You

Ever feel like you’re walking through life with a quiet hum of “something’s wrong with me” in the background? We go straight at that belief, trace how it sneaks into relationships, work, money, and body image, and then pull it up by the roots with simple, compassionate tools you can use today.

We start by naming the hidden lens that turns neutral moments into personal verdicts. A comment about your work, a glance in the mirror, a budget wobble—none of these define you until they hit a belief that says they should. Using Byron Katie’s inquiry—Is it true? Is it absolutely true?—we challenge the story at its foundation and create space for a different experience: relief, breath, and a sense that you were never broken to begin with. From there, we explore identity shifts that stick: not forced affirmations, but grounded “I am” statements that speak from essence—confidence, freedom, the permission to be a little loud or beautifully quiet—and how those anchors translate into real choices and calmer nervous systems.

We also get practical. You’ll hear how to interrupt confirmation bias, separate feedback from self-worth, and integrate the change across your closest relationships. We talk energetic clearing, gentle habits that retrain attention, and the daily signals that tell you the old program is fading—less reactivity, cleaner boundaries, more honest joy. The result isn’t perfection; it’s permission to show up as you are and build from there with steadier hands and a softer heart.

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Welcome & Core Theme

SPEAKER_00 0:01

Welcome to the Becoming Your Warrior podcast. This is the place where you get to feel inspired and empowered to step into your very best life. Hey, I'm Em. I help people energetically and emotionally move on from their exes.

The “Something’s Wrong With Me” Lens

SPEAKER_00 0:22

And today I want to talk about a constraint that I see show up a lot. And a constraint is essentially an energy that some people come into this life with. And that is the feeling of there's something wrong with me. And I see this time and time again in relationships, and I see it a lot in sensitive people, myself included. I used to really feel this. So just to give you a really simple example of how this can show up, if you are very describe yourself as somebody who's very sensitive, it might be that somebody makes a comment about your appearance, or somebody comments about what you're doing, or it can feel like people are attacking you or constantly berating you. I have a little bit of news, and as you know, I work with the relationship to self and anything that's happening on the outside is essentially a reflection of what's happening on the inside. So if you feel that someone's attacking you, if you feel like somebody's constantly putting you down, I want to just invite you to feel into this, and that is the fact that you may think that there's something wrong with you. Deep down, your interpretation of that might be it might be connected to not feeling enough or feeling less than, but ultimately it comes down to people are telling me things about myself and it's making me feel like there's something wrong with me, where in fact people are just

How It Shows Up Day to Day

SPEAKER_00 1:46

saying what they're saying. People are just saying what they're saying, but it's because you believe something about yourself, um, and that is why we live through this constraint of there's something wrong with me. So the way that I describe it is imagine you have a see-through contact lens, like a giant contact lens that you walk around on, and in that contact lens is just this vision of your life, which is there is something wrong with me. So as you move around through life and go through your day, you will find things, you will find evidence to reflect back at you that there's something wrong with you. It might be you look in the mirror and you go, Oh my goodness, my body isn't the way it should be, da-da-da-da-da. Um, or somebody makes a comment about your work and you're like, oh, I've done something wrong, there's something wrong with me, I haven't done it in the proper way. It can play out in anxiety where you're literally on tender hooks and you're literally saying to yourself, like, I can't get anything wrong, like I can't do anything wrong, you know, it otherwise it's gonna show that there's something wrong with me. Um, excuse me, it can even be in your finances as well, where you're like, I just can't get beyond this certain point when it comes to finances. There's something wrong with me. So, like I said, it shows up in your outer world, what's going on in your inner world?

Byron Katie’s Questions

SPEAKER_00 3:03

And here is the question to ask yourself, which is actually a lot of Byron Katie's work. I don't know if you've heard of her or not, but Byron Katie is an amazing healer, spiritual therapist, amazing lady. Um, and she asks you so if I was to ask you right now, is it true that there is something wrong with you? Like, is it true? And you're gonna come to whatever answer that is. And so the next question I would ask using Byron Katie's work is Is it absolutely true that there's something wrong with you? And when you feel into that, like in the absolute, in the absolute, doesn't matter what your body looks like, doesn't matter what your finances are like, or whatever, like, is it absolutely true that there's something wrong with you? And the answer is always gonna be no. And in that, that relief comes the space and a bit of peace and probably an exhale and a bit of release. And the next thing to ask yourself then is well, who do I get to be?

Choosing Who You Get To Be

SPEAKER_00 4:09

Who do I get to be if I'm no longer living in the lie of there's something wrong with me? And just feel into that. Like, you know, for example, when I broke through this constraint, I was like, Well, I can be confident, I can be fun, I can be all of me, I can, you know, love my body and move my body because I want to, not because I think there's something wrong with me. I can show up and be a bit loud in friendship circles, you know, I can actually show up and be seen. Um, and so it's a beautiful um constraint to um to break through because when you break through, there is a lot of freedom and peace and ease on the other side of it. And then it's just the practice of reminding yourself that that's who you are, you know, and not through affirmations, because I I personally have never been a huge fan of affirmations. Like I really believe like affirmations is like you're feeling bad, and then you like look in the mirror and you're like, I feel good, and

Beyond Affirmations: I Am Statements

SPEAKER_00 5:16

you're forcing it, and it's it's not true. Um, so instead, like when you realize it's all a lie and it's it's something that's just been learned, um, what you actually get to do is you actually get to say, I am statement. So it's like I am freedom and I am confident and I am um, you know, I am a little bit loud sometimes, and that's okay, because you're speaking from the very essence of you, not from this little physical construct, you know, called Emma. So I'll leave that with you today, but just know there's nothing wrong with you. There never has been in your life. You have just from whatever story, whatever um, you know, childhood you've grown up in, you've just received a program that there's something wrong with you, and it's absolutely not true. Um, it's it's an absolute lie. And when you realize that, you get to step into freedom, get to step into love and possibility, and that's really who you are. Um, if you want to find out more, just drop me a message. Um, my details are in the video below. Um, I love helping people break through this and clearing their energy. And when you clear your energy with yourself, when you clear, you know, these old constraints, they just don't show up in any relationships. And so you get to show up in a relationship with your friends, with your family, with your partners or partner, I should say,

Integration, Relationships & Authenticity

SPEAKER_00 6:40

or partners. Um, you get to show up authentically, you get to show up as you and not be as sensitive as you once were. All right, sending you so much love and I will chat to you soon. Thanks so much for listening today. If you feel like you want or you need a little bit more one-on-one support, then feel free to head to my website, which is emma-richie.com.